Wednesday, April 13, 2005
An Eternal Dilemma
Over at Classical Education, Joi posts on how hard it is to be single in church when most are "family oriented."
The solution I found that worked best was to make a "friend" of a family in church. A home that would include me in family stuff whenever it arose. From holiday meals to "family" retreats, I was included. Finding such a family was really hard work, and I had to be pretty aggressive about it. But I have some great friends to this day...
I myself, however, am single, and likely to remain so.As someone who did not get married until nearly 40, this is a feeling I know really well. I also hated "singles ministry" because they invariably ended up as a collection of people that were single for VERY good reasons, or they were a Christian 'meat market.'
so how do I continue to uphold my beliefs in the importance of children and families when I'm incredibly sick of "family-oriented" Christianity?
The solution I found that worked best was to make a "friend" of a family in church. A home that would include me in family stuff whenever it arose. From holiday meals to "family" retreats, I was included. Finding such a family was really hard work, and I had to be pretty aggressive about it. But I have some great friends to this day...
