Wednesday, November 16, 2011
7 Things Forgiveness is NOT...
- Regaining automatic trust
- Removal of consequences
- Ignoring the offense
- Instant emotional healing
- Restoring the same relationship
- A leverage of power
Very helpful stuff. Too often forgiveness is treated as some kind of magic wand that makes relational difficulties go away. Often it just begins them.
Here is how I would put this, taking a slightly different angle. If you forgive me, you are not enabling me to continue in my aberrant behavior. You are; however, giving me the opportunity to learn what I did wrong and to endeavor not to repeat the mistake.
The real question is, "Do I want to learn?"